One of the most emotionally complex topics in Amish society is what happens when a community member decides to leave the faith. The social and spiritual consequences depend heavily on whether the individual left before or after taking baptism vows.
Leaving Before Baptism (During Rumspringa)
If an unbaptized youth decides not to join the church at the end of Rumspringa, they are not shunned. Because they never made a formal vow before God and the congregation, they are free to leave, drive cars, attend college, and live modern lives. Family ties usually remain intact, and they are welcomed back home for family meals and holidays.
Leaving After Baptism (The Excommunication Process)
If a member takes baptism vows and later breaks their covenant by leaving the church, the congregation applies Meidung (shunning or excommunication). Members are forbidden from eating at the same table with them, accepting gifts directly, or doing business with them, serving as a reminder of their broken spiritual covenant.